Having confidence issues myself, I think this article is very helpful. It helps you identifying your weak points, the source of them and gives you the means to built on and eventually feel more comfortable in your own skin. Given that “True self-confidence isn’t an overnight acquisition” here are some of the points I can relate the most although it’s worth reading the whole article:
# Chip away at your obstacles, little by little. There’s no quick fix here–anything that promises to make you feel better is only temporary and might leave you feeling worse, as if you’re losing the battle. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve those issues before you can be happy.
# Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, and then focus on your accomplishments. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. While you’re at it, give yourself credit for your general success in life. No one else is responsible for your achievements. Did anyone put a gun to your head and force you to go to work/school/practice today? Your parents brought you into this world, but that is all. You chose to do everything from the point of your first conscious adult thought. Inferiority is just a state of mind. You determine who you are.
# Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it’s emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Being content and finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
# Be Positive, even if you don’t feel positive. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior–they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
# Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what’s called the “facial feedback theory” suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.
# Stick to your principles. It might be tough, but if you don’t have something you can believe in, you don’t have anything. No matter what’s happened in your life, you can always lay claim to the fact that from this day forward, you’ve followed your principles to the best of your ability.